We spend a lot of time dreaming about love, trying to attract love, and once it’s in our grasp, worrying about losing it. But ask the average human to define love, and chances are they’ll have a hard time coming up with an answer. 

Why is love so difficult to define? The answer is that our earthly idea of love misses the mark in several important ways. 

Here are some common human illusions about love:   

•    True love is rare and hard to find. 
•    You have to “earn” love.
•    When we love someone we should expect to get something back in exchange. 
•    When someone we love dies, they are no longer part of our daily lives. 

Here are some messages about love that come through repeatedly from the Spirit world:

1. I would have progressed so much more spiritually if I had utilized love instead of fear during my time on earth! 
2. There is infinite love in the Spirit world.
3. It’s never too late to open yourself up to love. 
4. The more love you put out, the more love you will attract.

 

 

I've looked at love from both sides now
From give and take, and still somehow
It's love's illusions I recall
I really don't know love at all

Joni Mitchell

What I’ve learned about love from Spirit:

I’ve had the chance to view love from “both sides” – from my own human perspective, and through the eyes of the Spirit people. Here’s what I’ve learned: Most humans view love as a prize to be pursued and protected. But in fact, you don’t have to work at love.  You are love! Love is your natural state of being, the unifying force that holds everything together. Love has no boundaries or limits, and the more you understand that everyone is composed of the same divine element, the more you open the gates to let love flood into every part of your life. 

Margie and Bart: Love without limits

When I do my readings, Spirits who come through on a loving vibration connect clearly, effortlessly and joyfully. An enduring love bond between two people paves the way for spirit communication. 

I’ll never forget a reading I did for an elderly woman named Margie. She had been married to her husband and soul mate, Bart, for 52 years before he died of cancer. When I met with Margie two years after Bart’s passing, it struck me how serene and happy she was. I knew that she and Bart had loved each other deeply, but she didn’t seem to be grieving or desperate to connect with him. Instead she seemed to be calmly looking forward to receiving a message from him! 

Bart came through almost immediately as if he had been waiting for me to show up.  He shared some funny observations about his life with Margie, and let her know that he had been standing right next to her when their favorite song “Blue Moon” had come on the radio a few days before. He was even holding a bunch of purple irises – Marge’s favorite flower. He reassured her that he had seen her sister and father on the other side, and that they were happy and healthy.  

Then he said something that surprised me! He asked about Hank.  It turns out that before he died, Bart had looked for someone to take his place – to take care of Margie! He found the perfect candidate, and had given them his blessing to be together after he passed. Margie was quick to say that Hank had not replaced Bart in her heart, but that there was plenty of love to go around. 

Bart’s unselfish and enduring love was truly inspiring! It reinforced my feeling that unconditional love, where one person cares most about the welfare and happiness of another, will endure anything – even death.