So you're in a relationship and almost everything is going swell. You and your man might have your issues...you might fight about this or that and you might be annoyed at the way he brushes his teeth or breaths in your ear as your watching tv but for the most part you two are solid. Then it happens. You're at work and the new guy walks through the door. "Oh my God" you say to yourself, "Who is that ridiculously amazing man?" Then as the weeks pass you and this hottie become close grabbing lunch, cracking jokes about Marty the accountant behind his back, sharing pre and post lunch snacks and going to that bar around the corner for a quick after work cocktail. Without hitting on you in that stupidly obvious way he gives you little compliments about the dress your wearing or the way your hair looks on a particular day. He tells you how beautiful you are in a way that your man doesn't or talks about his mama in a way that makes your heart swell . When referring to your man he says things like, "He sure is lucky to have a lady like you" or "If you were my girl I'd waste no time marrying you. What's he waiting for?" Then one day it happens. You're on your way home and you catch your mind wondering about how that hunk of good looking ass looks naked. You start to look at all your man's disgusting imperfections and all this new guys absolute God given perfectness and wonder "What is wrong with me?" I love my beau he's awesome...but there is something about new guy that makes me want to rip off my clothes, jump into his arms and cry out to the God responsible for this master piece. What do you do? How do you handle this? And is there a remedy for getting over your crush before you're caught with one too many buttery nipple shots at the office party and the two of you are making out on the bosses desk? The best way to deal with this situation is to figure out what you are missing from your own relationship and talk to your partner about how you guys can make things better and/or add a little spice back into your relationship. Whatever is lacking is what your "crush" is filling the void of. No one is perfect and you both have to find ways to add that missing piece back into your relationship. However if you feel like he is definitely not the one for you and nothing he does makes you happy...get out of that relationship and after a bit of time for yourself give that crush a shot when you are single and ready to mingle!! xx Love Mania