Why am I afraid of offending anyone? I am often angry at myself for being afraid to offend anyone. While I don't say anything to anyone that is "offensive" It is the little things or comments I make that I worry about. It might be something said in jest and I fear after the words leave my mouth that I may have said the wrong thing. This fear of offending people does not jive with my personality. I am adamant that I should always be free to speak my mind and speak the truth whether or not some agrees with my viewpoint, and I do. On the other hand, I always have he fear of offending someone even though I know it is my right to speak.

This was particularly difficult in the corporate world where, when I saw something wrong, it was my responsibility, I felt, to say something. Even if it was an issue that did not concern me, I felt I had to speak up for another co-worker who couldn't. So there was always the conflict; I must let you know what I think but I fear the consequences of telling you like it is.

Why do I still fear offending people even though I am not an offensive person? I think it is partly due to life experiences. It seemed that every time I spoke up, defended myself or gave my view point, someone wasn't happy. And instead of shrugging it off and saying "too bad, so sad" I feel deep down that perhaps I hurt someone feelings - especially if I got the silent treatment afterwards or I suffered the loss of some benefit because of what I said.

The thing is, I will not stop speaking my mind - it's a dirty task but someone must. What I need to overcome is the fear of reprisals. The good thing is that even though I fear reprisals, I never back down. I may modify or sugar coat at times but If I can't speak my mind then what am I?