The common man certainly can not love our neighbors, but they can at least be kind. If you can do that, then at least a little closer to express spiritual selfhood hidden in his heart. Love your neighbor as yourself is to love him as his true spiritual self that we seek and completely love. In any case, it is not meant to love fragile ego that controls humanity. Sentimentality is a mere pretense of compassion, which collapses when subjected to stress. But true compassion will always permanent tension and it can never be destroyed. True charity must come from a higher level than emotional, and this level is intuitive. Behave love for others is to show them the good will and accept them for who they are. That's not to love everything wrong in their character.