In a world the of cyber dating, the situation when someone you are talking to online or dating disappears off the face of the earth instead of having a grown-up face to face talk about why they don't want to see you finally had a name. This is now known as ghosting.  I am sad to admit I do go ghost,  all the time. There are reasons for my actions though, I don't just pull a Houdini for no reason.   With online dating, I personally don't think every situation deserves a conversation on why I don't want to talk to you.   

5. I really didn't get the message.

I consider myself attractive.  You have to understand that being even remotely attractive and female means that I am going to have a mailbox full of nonsense every day.  I recently went thru my mailbox and saw a super hot guy that sent me a message and I missed it because some crazy was sending me 15 messages within ten mins. It's not always on purpose guys.  Sometimes it really isn't our fault. 

4. I found out who you really are.

Okay, when you know you have been convicted of possession of meth or that criminal confinement charge on your record.   There is no reason to question why I am not answering your messages. You could have had a small chance of getting somewhere if you include something that hints at a troubled past or your successful recovery in your profile. Honestly, some things are big red flashing lights, when you have these, you are better off coming clean and explaining yourself. 

3. You were disrespectful.

If you are disrespectful, that is enough for me.  If I don't know you and you call me out of my name, even jokingly, there is no reason to speak to you again. There is no reason to argue on a dating app, we can just not talk to each other again

2. You are in a relationship

Dating sites are not the place to find friends. If you are in a relationship, or you have social media accounts that elude to a significant other I am not going to stick around to chat. I am looking for a relationship in real life eventually.  If I like your pictures and what you have to say, my next step is going to be searching your image on google. If you posted a picture of your wife/ girlfriend on your Instagram an hour ago I am not going to respond to you ever again.

1. We never met in person

If we have never met, I don't owe an explanation on why I don't want to talk to you. I might think that your head is too small. Online relationships should be taken as the equivalent of meeting in a bar.  I might not ever talk to you again, and I don't owe you an explanation if I don't.